Transformation 4/5: Experiencing Life to the fullest

A. Appreciation of what is around you

"See the fullness of life all around you. The warmth of the sun on your skin, the display of magnificent flowers outside a florist's shop, biting into a succulent fruit, or getting soaked in an abundance of water falling from the sky. The Fullness of life is there at every step."

Eckhart Tolle

How often do we get so caught up in life that we forget to stop and really experience and appreciate life? Things that are around you, your partner, your family, your colleagues....

When's the last time you really 'spend time' with someone?
Offering your fullest attention to him/her and making sure your conversations devoid of any worries and past pains, you see, your total presence is the greatest present you can ever give to a person.

When's the last time you really take a mental picture of the person in front of you, taking in all his/her physical features and see the beautfiul spirit that resides in their body?

The ability to see beauty in life everywhere is a key to lead a blissful life because positive emotions spring from within not from the external circumstances.

Change is the only truth. Let go of your attachment to anything, let go of the 'bad' relationship decisions that you made, let go of the 'mistakes' you made in your past....

It is what it is.

Embrace life, Enjoy living and be happy without any reasons.

Having Compassion for yourself and others is the only way to high self-esteem. With all these good, positive emotions rooted in who you are, you come into alignment with the world.

B. Focus on depth

The Intensity and glory of life can only be found in exploring the depth of all things.

But How?

The answer lies in the appreciation of what is around you, welcoming and embracing changes and bringing yourself into every moment of life with all these positive emotions:

1. Seeing the goodness in people
2. knowing that you are truly loved
3. Life is amazing and easy.


Merry Christmas!

Will

Transformation 3/5 : Living your truth

My friend was talking to me about this program he was listening to. Its about masculinity and man on mission. Here is a few points worth highlighting.

“Character is Destiny,”
Sigmund Freud

Who are you? What is your identity? What is your purpose?
Before we explore these important questions, let me share a story with you guys. It is “The Count of Monte Cristo” written by Alexandre Dumas.

The Count of Monte Cristo
It is a classic story about an innocent man (Edmond Dantes) being wrongly imprisoned and his brilliant strategy for revenge against those who betrayed him.

While he is sent to the infamous Chateau d’If where the most dangerous political prisoners are kept, he meets an Italian priest and intellectual Abbe Faria who bequeaths to Dante’s a large treasure hidden on the island of Monte Cristo. When Faria died, Dantes jumps off the cliff, thrown himself into the sea and swim to freedom.

At the end, he transforms himself into the wealthy count of Monte Cristo and cleverly integrates himself into the French nobility and destroys those who betrayed him.

The symbolism of the Cliff
Imagine you are Dantes standing at the edge of the cliff, what are the emotions that are running through you right now?

What are the questions that you will ask yourself?
Is it worth it?

The real question then becomes whether you can summon enough courage and emotional leverage to allow you to step into the unknown future.
To me, the edge of the cliff can be seen as the end of a particular lifestyle that you are having at the moment and a new door allowing you to access a radically different lifestyle and adventure.

When Edmund Dantes told Priest Faria that, “I don’t believe in God,” Faria responds with the following,
“That is no matter, Edmund, for God believes in YOU.”

In other words, whether or not you are afraid if you will survive, life will keep hammering you with challenges because we all know that you will be right. “ Allow yourself to be thrown off the cliff, and find yourself washed up on the beach; a real man, mature, with a real life.” David

The meaning of life:
It is everything that you decide.
It can be what Roberto Benini said “Life is beautiful” or Ernest Hemingway ‘s quote, “Life is a tragedy.”
It doesn’t matter. It is up to you ultimately.
Personally, I agree totally with David Deida’s notion that Most men’s ultimate reason for doing anything has to do with discovering their deepest truth, enjoying total freedom and love, and giving their fullest gifts.

Discover Your purpose now:
Steve Pavlina offers an excellent way to identify your life purpose/ values.

What’s the point? The answer is being happy and being free.
When you start making everyday of your life a process of being who you really are, living you own truth then you become a purpose-driven person.

You know who you are….

You know what you value……

You know what your personal BOUNDARIES are….

You become a person who is naturally centered and THIS alone will allow you to create and live the type of Life that you want to live.

Transformation 2/5 : It is what it is

Have you ever felt bored? Not because you are ‘bored’ but because there is this little voice inside your head that tells you to feel this way.

Wait A sec.
What do you mean? You are not making any sense. You are saying as if I have a choice not to feel a particular way.

I am telling you YES!!!
Life is Choice even the state that you are feeling RIGHT NOW can change instantly for E MOTIONS is basically energy in motions. Tune into your FAVOURITE ‘clubbing’ music feeling the beat and singing along with it. I bet you will feel like going out and partying.

In addition, I am proposing something different:

Total Surrender to Reality + forever playful attitude

Total Surrender to reality basically implies the realisation that it is what it is. If you want to lead a blissful life, you really have to carry with you a mindset of total acceptance to any situations.

I understand how hard it is not to follow our natural instincts to label and judge a particular situation. Be patient with yourself.

1. Awareness: Catch yourself judging or labeling a particular situation
2. Deal with the voice (your ego) inside your head: tell it to either shut up or let it build up and it will disappear eventually. The key is not to resist or judge.
3. Repetition: you just have to consciously apply it everyday to make it a natural part of mental process.

Why is it that we have to stop judging and labeling?

;)
Reality is so illusive and deceiving that we can hardly come up with the “RIGHT’ solution or response. Just Go with it man.

You see, I personally really admire the character Vincent Chase in Entourage. His mindset absolutely rocks!!! Every time when the shits hit the fan, he will respond with something along the line, “Dude don’t worry, it always works out well.”

In reality, it always does.

Everyday Tips:
1. Start the day by telling yourself (Breath deeply as well) , “Today I will judge nothing.” From Deepak Chopra
2. Be Happy and Playful without any reasons. That’s the only way to live life (at least in my opinion.)

Thanks for reading.

Transformation 1 / 5 : The Power of Living in the Now Moment.

If there is one thing that can transform your life right now, it is from now on focus on nothing else but

Living in the NOW moment, right here right now!

People often say that an exciting life requires constant energy and intensity. It is so true. Ask yourself and your friends: why is it that we love extreme sports like skydiving and boxing so much?

It is precisely because it forces us to focus on the now and causes our awareness to expand exponentially.

How often do we find our mind slips away from the present and endlessly anticipating a ‘better’ future hoping that it will fill the void within us?

Is it then possible to suggest that our worries stem from our mind spending too much time in the future rather than the present?

Deepak Chopra once remarks that, ‘when the present moment becomes filled with a presence that is all-absorbing, completely at peace, and totally satisfying, you are in the now.’

Living in the now therefore implies a certain degree of awareness: noticing all those around you for ‘there are no ordinary moments’. (Peaceful Warrior)

The advantages of living in the NOW
The power of living in the now moment allows you to achieve the following things:
1. Grants you the power to create your own reality for you no longer bring any preconceived notions or judgments to a situation. You are, after all, the creator and co-creator of your own reality.
2. Eliminate worries which are rooted in the endless anticipation of the future.
3. You become authentic, attractive, confident and naturally who you are.
4. Because you live in the now, you therefore convey a degree of presence when you are around people.

Quick tips to help you living in the now
· When you catch yourself not paying attention or your mind wandering, come back to where you are.
· Breathing deeply for a minute or two will definitely help you to expand awareness and eliminate the feelings of anxiety, boredom, worrying or insecurity..due to wandering in the future.

Recommended Reading
· Eckhart Tolle’s “The Power of Now”
· Deepak Chopra’s “The Book of Secrets.”

The Course in Miracle once said, “your good intention is not enough, your WILLINGNESS is everything.”

Start applying it to your life everyday.