Transformation 4/5: Experiencing Life to the fullest

A. Appreciation of what is around you

"See the fullness of life all around you. The warmth of the sun on your skin, the display of magnificent flowers outside a florist's shop, biting into a succulent fruit, or getting soaked in an abundance of water falling from the sky. The Fullness of life is there at every step."

Eckhart Tolle

How often do we get so caught up in life that we forget to stop and really experience and appreciate life? Things that are around you, your partner, your family, your colleagues....

When's the last time you really 'spend time' with someone?
Offering your fullest attention to him/her and making sure your conversations devoid of any worries and past pains, you see, your total presence is the greatest present you can ever give to a person.

When's the last time you really take a mental picture of the person in front of you, taking in all his/her physical features and see the beautfiul spirit that resides in their body?

The ability to see beauty in life everywhere is a key to lead a blissful life because positive emotions spring from within not from the external circumstances.

Change is the only truth. Let go of your attachment to anything, let go of the 'bad' relationship decisions that you made, let go of the 'mistakes' you made in your past....

It is what it is.

Embrace life, Enjoy living and be happy without any reasons.

Having Compassion for yourself and others is the only way to high self-esteem. With all these good, positive emotions rooted in who you are, you come into alignment with the world.

B. Focus on depth

The Intensity and glory of life can only be found in exploring the depth of all things.

But How?

The answer lies in the appreciation of what is around you, welcoming and embracing changes and bringing yourself into every moment of life with all these positive emotions:

1. Seeing the goodness in people
2. knowing that you are truly loved
3. Life is amazing and easy.


Merry Christmas!

Will

Transformation 3/5 : Living your truth

My friend was talking to me about this program he was listening to. Its about masculinity and man on mission. Here is a few points worth highlighting.

“Character is Destiny,”
Sigmund Freud

Who are you? What is your identity? What is your purpose?
Before we explore these important questions, let me share a story with you guys. It is “The Count of Monte Cristo” written by Alexandre Dumas.

The Count of Monte Cristo
It is a classic story about an innocent man (Edmond Dantes) being wrongly imprisoned and his brilliant strategy for revenge against those who betrayed him.

While he is sent to the infamous Chateau d’If where the most dangerous political prisoners are kept, he meets an Italian priest and intellectual Abbe Faria who bequeaths to Dante’s a large treasure hidden on the island of Monte Cristo. When Faria died, Dantes jumps off the cliff, thrown himself into the sea and swim to freedom.

At the end, he transforms himself into the wealthy count of Monte Cristo and cleverly integrates himself into the French nobility and destroys those who betrayed him.

The symbolism of the Cliff
Imagine you are Dantes standing at the edge of the cliff, what are the emotions that are running through you right now?

What are the questions that you will ask yourself?
Is it worth it?

The real question then becomes whether you can summon enough courage and emotional leverage to allow you to step into the unknown future.
To me, the edge of the cliff can be seen as the end of a particular lifestyle that you are having at the moment and a new door allowing you to access a radically different lifestyle and adventure.

When Edmund Dantes told Priest Faria that, “I don’t believe in God,” Faria responds with the following,
“That is no matter, Edmund, for God believes in YOU.”

In other words, whether or not you are afraid if you will survive, life will keep hammering you with challenges because we all know that you will be right. “ Allow yourself to be thrown off the cliff, and find yourself washed up on the beach; a real man, mature, with a real life.” David

The meaning of life:
It is everything that you decide.
It can be what Roberto Benini said “Life is beautiful” or Ernest Hemingway ‘s quote, “Life is a tragedy.”
It doesn’t matter. It is up to you ultimately.
Personally, I agree totally with David Deida’s notion that Most men’s ultimate reason for doing anything has to do with discovering their deepest truth, enjoying total freedom and love, and giving their fullest gifts.

Discover Your purpose now:
Steve Pavlina offers an excellent way to identify your life purpose/ values.

What’s the point? The answer is being happy and being free.
When you start making everyday of your life a process of being who you really are, living you own truth then you become a purpose-driven person.

You know who you are….

You know what you value……

You know what your personal BOUNDARIES are….

You become a person who is naturally centered and THIS alone will allow you to create and live the type of Life that you want to live.

Transformation 2/5 : It is what it is

Have you ever felt bored? Not because you are ‘bored’ but because there is this little voice inside your head that tells you to feel this way.

Wait A sec.
What do you mean? You are not making any sense. You are saying as if I have a choice not to feel a particular way.

I am telling you YES!!!
Life is Choice even the state that you are feeling RIGHT NOW can change instantly for E MOTIONS is basically energy in motions. Tune into your FAVOURITE ‘clubbing’ music feeling the beat and singing along with it. I bet you will feel like going out and partying.

In addition, I am proposing something different:

Total Surrender to Reality + forever playful attitude

Total Surrender to reality basically implies the realisation that it is what it is. If you want to lead a blissful life, you really have to carry with you a mindset of total acceptance to any situations.

I understand how hard it is not to follow our natural instincts to label and judge a particular situation. Be patient with yourself.

1. Awareness: Catch yourself judging or labeling a particular situation
2. Deal with the voice (your ego) inside your head: tell it to either shut up or let it build up and it will disappear eventually. The key is not to resist or judge.
3. Repetition: you just have to consciously apply it everyday to make it a natural part of mental process.

Why is it that we have to stop judging and labeling?

;)
Reality is so illusive and deceiving that we can hardly come up with the “RIGHT’ solution or response. Just Go with it man.

You see, I personally really admire the character Vincent Chase in Entourage. His mindset absolutely rocks!!! Every time when the shits hit the fan, he will respond with something along the line, “Dude don’t worry, it always works out well.”

In reality, it always does.

Everyday Tips:
1. Start the day by telling yourself (Breath deeply as well) , “Today I will judge nothing.” From Deepak Chopra
2. Be Happy and Playful without any reasons. That’s the only way to live life (at least in my opinion.)

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Transformation 1 / 5 : The Power of Living in the Now Moment.

If there is one thing that can transform your life right now, it is from now on focus on nothing else but

Living in the NOW moment, right here right now!

People often say that an exciting life requires constant energy and intensity. It is so true. Ask yourself and your friends: why is it that we love extreme sports like skydiving and boxing so much?

It is precisely because it forces us to focus on the now and causes our awareness to expand exponentially.

How often do we find our mind slips away from the present and endlessly anticipating a ‘better’ future hoping that it will fill the void within us?

Is it then possible to suggest that our worries stem from our mind spending too much time in the future rather than the present?

Deepak Chopra once remarks that, ‘when the present moment becomes filled with a presence that is all-absorbing, completely at peace, and totally satisfying, you are in the now.’

Living in the now therefore implies a certain degree of awareness: noticing all those around you for ‘there are no ordinary moments’. (Peaceful Warrior)

The advantages of living in the NOW
The power of living in the now moment allows you to achieve the following things:
1. Grants you the power to create your own reality for you no longer bring any preconceived notions or judgments to a situation. You are, after all, the creator and co-creator of your own reality.
2. Eliminate worries which are rooted in the endless anticipation of the future.
3. You become authentic, attractive, confident and naturally who you are.
4. Because you live in the now, you therefore convey a degree of presence when you are around people.

Quick tips to help you living in the now
· When you catch yourself not paying attention or your mind wandering, come back to where you are.
· Breathing deeply for a minute or two will definitely help you to expand awareness and eliminate the feelings of anxiety, boredom, worrying or insecurity..due to wandering in the future.

Recommended Reading
· Eckhart Tolle’s “The Power of Now”
· Deepak Chopra’s “The Book of Secrets.”

The Course in Miracle once said, “your good intention is not enough, your WILLINGNESS is everything.”

Start applying it to your life everyday.

My Motto for this coming year

Turning 20 certainly is exciting, joyful and NICE. (I guess)

The idea of being an adult taking real REPSONSIBILITY of everything that is happening in my life proves to be harder than I thought for your ego is always on the way making excuses.


Moderation? It's mediocrity, fear, and confusion in disguise. It's the devil's dilemma. It's neither doing nor not doing. It's the wobbling compromise that makes no one happy. Moderation is for the bland, the apologetic, for the fence-sitters of the world afraid to take a stand. It's for those afraid to laugh or cry, for those afraid to live or die. Moderation...is lukewarm tea, the devil's own brew.

Dan Millman- The Way of Peaceful Warrior



My guilding principles for this coming year stating from this second are:

Focus living in the now moment! Offer my fullest attention to it with no judgments.

Taking Risks regularly! Because the greatest failure in life is to risk NOTHING.

Be Happy without any Reasons, for this is the only way to be truly happy.

With these principles in mind, I am WILLING to live every second of my life according to them.

The ‘Worldly Race’ vs. our internal Reality

Has your mum ever ‘complained’ to you that someone is doing quite well these days, you know, she/he is earning seven figures salary, own their own production company…etc?

I am sure we all go through the phrases of constant comparing and competitions during certain stages of our lives. All these external pressures from parents and society expectations can be argued to motivate us to strive forwards to achieve ‘better’ and ‘grander’ things.

But my question is that Is this the way to go? To strive to come first in this ‘worldly race’?

Are those who appear to be so successful externally winning the race or will they get tired, frustrated and lost before the race finishes? I don’t know.

I guess what I am trying to highlight here is that the struggle and frustration that comes in a package deal when we constantly chasing after the illusive notion of security to fulfill our wants.

Rather than going through the fire of initiation, gradually transforming and fine-tuning ourselves from metal to gold, those who focus on achieving externally tend to put gold glitter on themselves to cover up their problems that are desperately waiting to be addressed.

I work as a part time tele-interviewer for a market research company. I wouldn’t say I have a good voice but I tend to end up conducting the most interviews at the end of each shift EFFORTLESSLY as opposed to people who TRY to get more interviews done by dialing more numbers.

I think all it comes down to is ALIGNMENT: It is all about BEING, coming from a place where you are totally natural, joyful and offering values (love, gratitude and appreciation) to others.

When we surrender ourselves to reality, knowing that it is through going through the fire of initiation, learning from those experiences and lessons, only through that can we truly transform ourselves from medal to gold.
Once it is done, your inner qualities will shine through effortlessly and everything else will come together in perfection.

Self-Improvement vs Accepting the way we are

It’s funny how the 21st century is filled with products which are labeled as ‘personal growth’ and ‘deep personal identity change’ …etc The question is do we really need these products?

The truth is that while we all busy looking for the perfect product/ magic pill which can transform our lives in every areas instantly. We seem to forget one thing: that is to accept fully who we really are.

Accepting fully the way we are is definitely not doing nothing and watching heroes or prison break all day. The mindset behind self-improvement is important. When you come from a place where you fully accepting the way you are and therefore aligning yourself with the universe, you will set up situations for yourself to grow and learn from those experiences.

The key is to remember that everything that happens to you up till now is PERFECT and those are the experiences you need to learn from.

Start by fully accepting yourself the way you are, right now!!! Before you start a new day, empty your mind and thoughts and tell yourself that I now fully accept the way I am. Notice how empowering this feels for you are no longer tangled by what others and your ‘ego’ thinks of you.

You see being authentic is to accept everything that you are. The good and bad, the loving and unloving and by embracing those ambiguities within yourself, you become grounded in your own truth.

First Post

I have decided to start up a blog just sharing thoughts and personal journey for those who are interested in or already committed to living consciously. Make no mistake, I just started embarking on the journey of living consciously: living in the NOW moment and completely surrender to reality.

With this in mind, I am sure that every step that I take will lead me closer to the truth.

I was listening to Marianne Williamson's 'A Course in Miracle'today. Marianne conveys a couple of absolutely beautiful spiritual messages.

1. The work of religion is to go within us to go explore our own values.

2. Expect the best of people. PRAY for those who you have problems dealing with. Remember these people in whatever ways who are not manifesting love are not because they are bad but wounded. Find the love and acceptance within you to pray and bless for the people.

3. The power of our mind to bless people is far greater than the power of money, science and technology. The power to destroy is nothing compared to the power to create.

4. Deeper level of spirituality: letting God to be your pilot, being little children relaxing in the arms of the parents. Trusting God that he/she is the way. When we try to take control (that is to resist reality), we are interfering with God's plan.

5. The Ego mind speaks first and speaks the loudest.

6. The consumer culture constantly tells us that we are not good enough. The fact is that we are ENOUGH. We truly are.

Empty your mind everyday. Don't let your attitude and emotions take charge for judgments and labelling will appear.

The spiritual journey is to unlearn, letting God come into our mind and following your heart- your higher self.

I am doing an experiment at the moment:
Wishing everyone that I come across with true happiness and joy.

Interesting what this experiment will bring

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